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Technique
* When giving a massage the person should be lying down with you straddling their bottom, lightly sitting on it. This gives you more contact and sets you in the correct position to give a massage that does not feel awkward to you or the person you are giving it to. Use all of your hand, thumbs, fingers, knuckels, and fists. Rub gently and in small circles, but vary it with the different parts of your hands and with different amounts of pressure. You should massage their neck, the top of shoulders, the actual shoulders (people all too often forget that part), the back and sides, lower back/top of bottom and spine. Do not put a lot of pressure on the spine because this can be really bad for their bones, especially if the person is very little and does not have a lot of fat on their back. Make up your own way to do it because everyone does it differently. Experiment a little with it and you will find what they find pleasing or have them tell you what they like. Ask if the pressure is too hard or too soft. Use your fingertips to gently play the piano on their back or "type" as some others have said. you can rub their back with your palms too. Also lightly tickle/scratch their back when you are done. For foot and hand massages you should use lotion. On feet it is a little tricky because some people's are ticklish, you just have to be sure to use more pressure to where it doesn't tickle as much. kneading works well, and use your thumbs to lightly dig into the bottom of the foot. For hands you should use your fingertips and thumbs and kind of wiggle their fingers as you rub them. Don't forget the inbetween the fingers area. And using more pressure on the palms of the hands with your thumbs feels pretty good. Hope you enjoy. - Shoulda been a Masseuse * When your partner is lying on their stomach, slowly slide your oiled hands down the sides of their body, starting from below the armpits, down to the hips, over the buttocks, and down the inner thighs, to the knees. This is a great way to expand the massage and gives your partner a goosebumps feeling. Very effective with first time massagers and recipients. - Kazu * I've found I get a better sense of what is best for the person if I close my eyes while giving a massage. I can feel them and their unique bodies a lot better and also it helps to keep me from becoming too stimulated myself, until the time is right. It can also be nice to have music or scented candles and always take your time... A proper five minute rubdown beats an hour of rushed affection almost any time. - Deena * Place your hands on the small of their back, thumbs pointing inwards and rub in circular motions starting gently then varying the intensity. Kissing their neck softly and whispering in their ear helps relax them a lot. Concentrate on the spine and then the main back muscles, but only use your thumbs, never too hard, but with some pressure. Will make them sleep like a baby! - Budz * Don't forget that you're massaging. It's meant to do her some good, especially if her back is in a bad way. So when you decide to do it, make a job of it. Start with the spine or shoulders and then stick to that area. Loosen up the knots and work you way down her back. When you start on the spine make sure you massage it all from the skull right down to the bottom, without actually touching her bottom, unless she wants you to. Try to know the spots where you should apply more/less pressure. - Lapin * Start from the tops of the shoulders, on both sides of the neck. Then, with just the tips of your fingers (use ALL of your fingers), with moderate to heavy pressure, slowly work your way down in a "typing" motion. When you reach the bottom, rub the spots you just got with the palms of your hands in a circular motion until you find yourself back where you started. Repeat as necessary. - Matt * Hit the pressure points. If you don't know where they are, look them up online. If you're a massage dummy, just hit the pressure spots with gentle but firm force, and you cannot go wrong. Especially with the pressure spots located in the neck and shoulders. Those are killers that anyone would love to get rid of. - Bob * During your massage, lightly run your fingernails against their skin. It gives them goosebumps and is really erotic. - Sexy Jami * I was being treated for a lumber strain by a chirapracter and before she adjusted my spine, she rubbed on my very lower back in a continuous small circle, in the middle where it joins the buttocks. The doctor did this with a gel. It turned me on so much that I could barely keep responding to the doctor's conversation. I'm glad I had my jacket in her office, so I could walk out with it covering the result. - John * Be gentle! There's nothing more off-putting than someone who just goes in there like they're kneading dough, and ends up causing more pain than relaxation! - Scuz * The experienced, perceptive, erotic masseur employs the holistic approach. He or she will appreciate the value of applying a thorough relaxation massage before using erotic techniques. This makes the recipient's mind much more responsive to 'suggestion by manipulation,' thereby enabling a magical communion of minds through touch. Delicate sweeps of hands or fingers over areas of skin that have been sensitized by relaxation massage produce prodigously effective arousal without any need to stimulate the more obvious erogenous zones. The more thorough the body coverage, the better, but just the nape of the neck (most sensitive), spine and shoulders are enough in a normally responsive individual. Maintain relaxation therapy throughout the erotic stimulation phase to maintain production of cholines and endorphins. Avoid applying delicate sweeps too often, as this is likely to deplete these agaents and cause 'numbing.' - Archmagus -- Atmosphere/Mood * I have found that my hands have made some magic in the past and I wish to share with you the joy of such sensual (and seductive) experiences. I'm not going to give you directions aka use your thumb etc. I'm just going to make one point. Never underestimate the link between smell and touch. Simply light very potent yet smooth burning scented candles (preferably rose or lemon) and use your palms and fingertips. It's as easy as that if you're a beginner. Just remember, be what you want to be and feel for the person as they do for you...the rest is magic. - Freeman * Never expect sex to develop as a result. Do it for the sake of massage. If anything, that'll arouse your partner more, especially if they're expecting something sexual to happen. Massage is as much about the mood as it is about the touch. - Chas * Make sure you have all the time in the world. You never know where it may lead. Don't expect anything in return. A great massage should be as enjoyable for you, just giving it to your partner. Plus, they will probably feel very drained and may end up going to sleep, which is very understandable, realizing the pleasure they have just received. Music and lighting are very important. A nice fire would be perfect. Warm up your body and your mind. Warm hands are much more soothing. - Rick * Learning Tai Chi can greatly improve your massage technique. This ancient Chinese method teaches balance and control of the body's center of gravity. When your body is in balance while giving massage, you will tire less easily, and the flow of your movements will be orchestrated better. Your partner will feel the difference as you find new confidence and add reassurance to your movements. This builds trust which is an essential ingredient in all bodywork. - OBP -- Body Area * On the upper neck, right where the skull and spine connect. Run your fingers through their hair and place your thumbs right on this part of the upper neck. Massaging the muscles on the sides of the spine while running yur fingers through their hair has an effective outcome, not really erotic, but relaxing. - JynXXX * To ease the tension of his/her poor head for your client/partner, just simply use the fore and index fingers of his/her arm, then holding them both, slowly bend backward together for 1-9 seconds. - Earl Jones Lialde * You should massage the feet, and then kiss them gently and suck on the toes. This will drive them crazy. Make sure the feet are very clean. - wolfprincesstou * Run your fingertips down the back of their neck. Especially if you have long nails. Use figure 8's or anything to surprise them. Don't just go in a straight line. - Stars In Your Eyes * Most people massage the muscle. While this is a good idea, don't forget to massage beside the spine as well as the tricep, should joint, and love handles. Also, use variations of your hands. Don't stick to just circles with your thumbs. - Animal * Don't forget to massage the scalp ... combines the wonderful feeling of running your fingers through your lover's hair and stress relief. This works especially well if s/he is lying on their back, with their head in your lap. If you have long hiar, let it drape over their chest, and plant feather-light kisses on their forehead and temples while you massage their scalp. He's completely at my whim when I do this! - Cora * Don't forget your partner's hands and feet. Take the time to gently work the palms and backs of the hands, top and soles of the feet, and pay special attention to each finger and toe. - PSD * Women have a lot of tension in the lower region. After a while on the upper back, when she is comfortable with your hands, then use your thumbs to round her upper buttock region (good for people who have sat for long periods of time). - Seize * Pay special attention to the muscles in the back of the neck. People carry a lot of stress there, and many of us overlook this area in massage. You will probably receive encouraging moans if you're doing it right. Drag the thumbs up along the muscles at the back of the neck from bottom to the nape. Very relaxing. - Lyzbeth -- Props to Use * Oh, definitely body to body, with warming oils, is the best I have ever had! - Vicky Huff * Rather than using vanilla, try coconut. Every guy likes the scent of vanilla, but I hear more guys and women saying, "Mmmmmmm, something smells good. What is that?" - Kat * If you use honey as your lotion, it has replenishing nutrients for skin and tastes great when you lick it off! - Karen * Using your personal oil, glide down your lover's legs and back, up between the thighs, and down again, firmly going to the buttocks and squeezing in a gentle manner. - Audret * The best way to help set the mood is with candles, but remember - as with anything - too many will kill the mood. Try using aroma candles. * Put on relaxing music and light, vanilla scented candles. - LitlLayt * Use gemstones to rub over your partner's body. The sensation of the stones rolling is very soothing. Make sure to warm the stones up first. Hold them with your finger tips and gently roll them around. If you or your partner has very little body fat, then just cup the stones in your hands and rub. Use either Rose Quartz or Amethyst - these are supposed to be love stones. - AftmostSiren -- Before & After the Massage Before * To help establish that warm, interrelationship feeling, start the massage with a foot wash. This is especially effective with a 'new' subject who is not totally sure. Just before there is any body work (or getting on the table), have the person sit in a chair and gently wash their feet. Wash with a basin of warm water, soap, then gently work with a mix of 2/3 baking soda, 1/3 salt. Rinse well, dry. Then lotion is worked in during a good foot massage. This induces a feeling of relaxation and trust in continuing the experience with you. - Jkimo After * Always end the massage with a bath or shower together. The water shouldn't be too hot or too cold. If you are planning to use the tube, then carry her and gently place her in the tub. - Atul_G1 * After a total body rub-down of your partner, lightly scratch his/her back, starting at the neck and working your way slowly down to the feet, changing direction and pressure of scratching as you go. Focus on the back of the arms, edges of arm pits, sides of ribcage, inner thighs, calves, and outer edges of the feet. It will both relax and stimulate your partner. - Thumper * When the massage is over, gently glide your fingertips very lightly over the entire body. - Darrin
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