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*New - 03/14/08
A huge turn on for my boyfriend is when I massage the spot just between his shoulder blades
near the spine with my thumbs, using an up and down motion. The more pressure applied, the
more enjoyable it is for him. It works every time. - Sarah
*New - 03/03/07
When giving a massage the person should be lying down with you straddling their bottom, lightly sitting on it.
This gives you more contact and sets you in the correct position to give a massage that does not feel awkward to you
or the person you are giving it to. Use all of your hand, thumbs, fingers, knuckels, and fists. Rub gently and in small circles,
but vary it with the different parts of your hands and with different amounts of pressure. You should massage their neck, the
top of shoulders, the actual shoulders (people all too often forget that part), the back and sides, lower back/top of bottom and spine.
Do not put a lot of pressure on the spine because this can be really bad for their bones, especially if the person is very little and does
not have a lot of fat on their back. Make up your own way to do it because everyone does it differently. Experiment a little with it
and you will find what they find pleasing or have them tell you what they like. Ask if the pressure is too hard or too soft. Use your
fingertips to gently play the piano on their back or "type" as some others have said. you can rub their back with your palms too.
Also lightly tickle/scratch their back when you are done.
For foot and hand massages you should use lotion. On feet it is a little tricky because some people's are ticklish, you just have to
be sure to use more pressure to where it doesn't tickle as much. kneading works well, and use your thumbs to lightly dig into the
bottom of the foot. For hands you should use your fingertips and thumbs and kind of wiggle their fingers as you rub them.
Don't forget the inbetween the fingers area. And using more pressure on the palms of the hands with your thumbs feels pretty good.
Hope you enjoy.
- Shoulda been a Masseuse
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Technique
* A huge turn on for my boyfriend is when I massage the spot just between his shoulder blades
near the spine with my thumbs, using an up and down motion. The more pressure applied, the
more enjoyable it is for him. It works every time. - Sarah
* When giving a massage the person should be lying down with you straddling their bottom, lightly sitting on it.
This gives you more contact and sets you in the correct position to give a massage that does not feel awkward to you
or the person you are giving it to. Use all of your hand, thumbs, fingers, knuckels, and fists. Rub gently and in small circles,
but vary it with the different parts of your hands and with different amounts of pressure. You should massage their neck, the
top of shoulders, the actual shoulders (people all too often forget that part), the back and sides, lower back/top of bottom and spine.
Do not put a lot of pressure on the spine because this can be really bad for their bones, especially if the person is very little and does
not have a lot of fat on their back. Make up your own way to do it because everyone does it differently. Experiment a little with it
and you will find what they find pleasing or have them tell you what they like. Ask if the pressure is too hard or too soft. Use your
fingertips to gently play the piano on their back or "type" as some others have said. you can rub their back with your palms too.
Also lightly tickle/scratch their back when you are done.
For foot and hand massages you should use lotion. On feet it is a little tricky because some people's are ticklish, you just have to
be sure to use more pressure to where it doesn't tickle as much. kneading works well, and use your thumbs to lightly dig into the
bottom of the foot. For hands you should use your fingertips and thumbs and kind of wiggle their fingers as you rub them.
Don't forget the inbetween the fingers area. And using more pressure on the palms of the hands with your thumbs feels pretty good.
Hope you enjoy.
- Shoulda been a Masseuse
* The true beauty of massage is that it is such a simple direct form of human contact. It satisfys the basic human desire within all of us to touch and be touched. Gentle firm pressure upon any part of the body applied lovingly is always appreciated.
- Kauai Massage
* Press your body up against your partner: warm skin on skin always makes for a sensual experience. - KK
* Lick the lower back in circular motions... gently with a dry tongue... moving up the spine... breathing softly
around the upper neck and ear lobes... - C. Finney
* Take your thumbs and place them at the base of the back, and using a circular motion, work
your way up the spine to the neck. When you get there, take one hand and slide it up to their neck and
with your thumb and middle finger rub their neck softly. Add a whisper and enjoy the smell of bali moonlight.
- Jon
* While giving a massage, try lightly breathing on the neck of the person, while you whisper. It triggers endorphines in the blood and will feel great.
- David
* If doing just a shoulder/back massage, it can be semi-erotic to sit (lightly) on the recipient's lower back. Fold your knees so you can straddle them and most of your weight is balanced in your thighs and calves.
- PK
* When your partner is lying on their stomach, slowly slide your
oiled hands down the sides of their body, starting from below
the armpits, down to the hips, over the buttocks, and down the
inner thighs, to the knees. This is a great way to expand the
massage and gives your partner a goosebumps feeling. Very effective
with first time massagers and recipients. - Kazu
* Don't force yourself on your girl. With one hand just touch her
hand and move up to her armpit, making her feel very comfortable
in your arms. Then with your other hand start massaging her back
just above her butt. From there go to her stomach and give her
a massage. - Sexy Doll
* I've found I get a better sense of what is best for the person if I close my eyes
while giving a massage. I can feel them and their unique bodies a lot better and also it helps to
keep me from becoming too stimulated myself, until the time is right. It can also be nice to
have music or scented candles and always take your time... A proper five minute rubdown
beats an hour of rushed affection almost any time. - Deena
* Place your hands on the small of their back, thumbs pointing inwards and rub in circular motions
starting gently then varying the intensity. Kissing their neck softly and whispering in their ear
helps relax them a lot. Concentrate on the spine and then the main back muscles, but only use your
thumbs, never too hard, but with some pressure. Will make them sleep like a baby! - Budz
* Don't for that you're massaging. It's meant to do her some good, especially if her back is in a bad way.
So when you decide to do it, make a job of it. Start with the spine or shoulders and then stick to that
area. Loosen up the knots and work you way down her back. When you start on the spine make sure you massage
it all from the skull right down to the bottom, without actually touching her bottom, unless she wants you
to. Try to know the spots where you should apply more/less pressure. - Lapin
* Ok, when stimulating your partner, you should not only focus on what they are feeling. When I give my boyfriend a
massage, I have him close his eyes, because doing this makes his other senses more sensitive, such as touch or feel.
Whisper during the massage. If you want to be seductive during the massage then try these things: when giving a
light touch stimulation, lean in (good for when you are working on their arms and they are on their stomach) and
whisper to them (semi seductively) things such as "feel my hands as I lightly touch every inch of your body, focus on my
touch, and my voice as I whisper in your ear."
Giving them a play by play stimulates their brain and their emotions while your hands stimulate their body. - VAngelite
* Use your knuckles to break down pressure points in the muscle. Do so carefully
and softly. If you do this to the bone area, it will sometimes be uncomfortable
and tends to tickle. - Camel
* Lightly rub the spine with the tips of your nails (only if they're not sharp!!!!),
then rub away lightly with the palm. Also be sure to take your pointer and thumb and
keep them about an inch apart, then stradling the spine with them, move down notches
with circular motions. - Cenzo
* When giving a sensual back massage, always keep in contact with your
partner using both hands and doing slow circular motions. Do all the
muscles but also follow the curves and dips of your partner as well. - Little Lady
* Start from the tops of the shoulders, on both sides of the neck.
Then, with just the tips of your fingers (use ALL of your fingers),
with moderate to heavy pressure, slowly work your way down in a
"typing" motion. When you reach the bottom, rub the spots you just
got with the palms of your hands in a circular motion until you
find yourself back where you started. Repeat as necessary. - Matt
* When giving a "light touch" sensual massage, NEVER lose contact. IF
a hand or fingers become tired, keep using the other one. When switching,
AVOID loss of contact. When turning your partner over, use one hand to turn
and the other to continue the sensations. - A Squared Bill
* Hit the pressure points. If you don't know where they are, look them
up online. If you're a massage dummy, just hit the pressure spots
with gentle but firm force, and you cannot go wrong. Especially with
the pressure spots located in the neck and shoulders. Those are killers
that anyone would love to get rid of. - Bob
* I have found that if you blow real light cool air around their neck,
face, and ears, they love it, and it relaxes them. It's a sensation
as well as stimulation. Combine it with small kisses and light rubs
to the tricep areas, as well as the lovehandles. -Tbo
* During your massage, lightly run your fingernails against their skin. It
gives them goosebumps and is really erotic. - Sexy Jami
* Probably well known, but what my girl really likes is when I use my thumbs to
make circular motions about an inch from either side of her spine extending from
the top of her butt to her neck. - Snaggle
* When using your fist, always keep your thumb pointed out, elbow close in to
the body, leaning gently inward to achieve correct pressure. And use long, slow,
complete strokes. - Jake
* Lick gently down the spine and around
the ears and neck. Also, don't be afraid to let your subject feel and hear your
breath. That is invigorating as well! - Mojo
* When massaging the foot, make sure you always end the foot massage with kisses on the foot
very tenderly. It drives women wild. - Foot Massager
* I use my medi-carpals when putting more than just gentle pressure, that is the place on
your finger that is between the two knuckles. Use your thumbs only as a guide. Do not
use them to apply pressure. Also working below the small of the back is very effective
in relaxing someone. - Tyler
* When rubbing down the back, use the heels of your hand and gently apply tapping pressure
with your fingers. Start from pinkie to index finger as if you are typing or playing the
piano. - Marty
* I was being treated for a lumber strain by a chirapracter and before she adjusted my
spine, she rubbed on my very lower back in a continuous small circle, in the middle
where it joins the buttocks. The doctor did this with a gel. It turned me on so much
that I could barely keep responding to the doctor's conversation. I'm glad I had my
jacket in her office, so I could walk out with it covering the result. - John
* When doing full body massages, go completely down one side of the body, then the other.
This keeps the hands from cramping. Also, massaging the person in the nude is always
best. - Robert
* Start out slowly. Make note of any injuries they may have (where you're massaging).
Use both hands and all of your hand, not just the thumbs or fingers. While your hands
do the massaging, you should breathe slowly and deeply. This helps you
focus. - Kory
* Be gentle! There's nothing more off-putting than someone who just goes in there
like they're kneading dough, and ends up causing more pain than relaxation! - Scuz
* It can be enjoyable for your lover if you work all of their tension into one spot,
then just squeeze the knots from that spot. If this is successful, it will leave
them in a relaxed state with zero stress. - Shaun
* The experienced, perceptive, erotic masseur employs the holistic approach. He or she
will appreciate the value of applying a thorough relaxation massage before using erotic
techniques. This makes the recipient's mind much more responsive to 'suggestion by
manipulation,' thereby enabling a magical communion of minds through touch. Delicate
sweeps of hands or fingers over areas of skin that have been sensitized by relaxation
massage produce prodigously effective arousal without any need to stimulate the more
obvious erogenous zones. The more thorough the body coverage, the better, but just the
nape of the neck (most sensitive), spine and shoulders are enough in a normally responsive
individual. Maintain relaxation therapy throughout the erotic stimulation phase to
maintain production of cholines and endorphins. Avoid applying delicate sweeps too often,
as this is likely to deplete these agaents and cause 'numbing.' - Archmagus
* Use just the tips of your fingers, very lightly. - 2eyesgreen
Atmosphere/Mood
* I have found that my hands have made some magic in the past and I wish to share with you
the joy of such sensual (and seductive) experiences. I'm not going to give you directions aka
use your thumb etc. I'm just going to make one point. Never underestimate the link between
smell and touch. Simply light very potent yet smooth burning scented candles (preferably rose or lemon)
and use your palms and fingertips. It's as easy as that if you're a beginner. Just remember, be what you
want to be and feel for the person as they do for you...the rest is magic.
- Freeman
* Never expect sex to develop as a result. Do it for the sake of massage. If anything,
that'll arouse your partner more, especially if they're expecting something sexual to
happen. Massage is as much about the mood as it is about the touch. - Chas
* Get comfortable. If you are sitting in an odd position and can't be comfortable and
relaxed, then your hands will tense, which will cause you to do most any massage wrong.
- Heather
* Make sure you have all the time in the world. You never know where it may lead.
Don't expect anything in return. A great massage should be as enjoyable for you, just
giving it to your partner. Plus, they will probably feel very drained and may end up
going to sleep, which is very understandable, realizing the pleasure they have just received.
Music and lighting are very important. A nice fire would be perfect. Warm up your body
and your mind. Warm hands are much more soothing. - Rick
* When massaging your loved one, you must remember to concentrate. Think of all the
reasons that person makes you feel so good. If you do this, it will make the
experience satisfying for the both of you. - Cat Rncddn
* When massaging your partner, visualize making love to them as you do so. That way,
you will give it your all. - Judi Karr
* Learning Tai Chi can greatly improve your massage technique. This ancient Chinese
method teaches balance and control of the body's center of gravity. When your body
is in balance while giving massage, you will tire less easily, and the flow of your
movements will be orchestrated better. Your partner will feel the difference as you
find new confidence and add reassurance to your movements. This builds trust which
is an essential ingredient in all bodywork.
- OBP
Body Area
* On the upper neck, right where the skull and spine connect. Run your
fingers through their hair and place your thumbs right on this part of
the upper neck. Massaging the muscles on the sides of the spine while
running yur fingers through their hair has an effective outcome, not
really erotic, but relaxing.
- JynXXX
* To ease the tension of his/her poor head for your client/partner,
just simply use the fore and index fingers of his/her arm, then
holding them both, slowly bend backward together for 1-9 seconds.
- Earl Jones Lialde
* When massaging, pay special attention to the neck, where it attaches to
the skull. A gentle massage there is enough to put anyone to sleep. - gentlehands
* One of my favorite spots, while giving and receiving a massage is the calf muscles.
It can get a bit tickly, but feels great. - Davie
* What I like is when my boyfriend rubs gently up and down my hips and then
goes to my inner thighs, and then starts over again. And what really drives
me crazy is when he kisses my neck to my breast lightly at the same time when
he's rubbing me! It feels so good! - Shorty
* When massaging my boyfriend, I always rub with light to medium pressure
on his inner thighs in a clockwise and then counter-clockwise motion. He
goes crazy the higher up on the thighs that I bring my hands. - Fierce Kitten
* You should massage the feet, and then kiss them gently and suck
on the toes. This will drive them crazy. Make sure the feet
are very clean. - wolfprincesstou
* Run your fingertips down the back of their neck. Especially if
you have long nails. Use figure 8's or anything to surprise them.
Don't just go in a straight line. - Stars In Your Eyes
* Most people massage the muscle. While this is a good idea, don't
forget to massage beside the spine as well as the tricep,
should joint, and love handles. Also, use variations of your
hands. Don't stick to just circles with your thumbs. - Animal
* Massage women just below their navel or just above the pubic
area! It sends tingles through the whole body. - Christine
* Women hold extra stress between their chest and neck. Be
sure to gently massage that area, once they are comfortable
with your hands being in such an odd location. - Greaser
* My rule of thumb, the more of the body you touch, the better! And don't be afraid to
touch somewhere different because chances are it's the same spot someone else passed up.
- Sensational7
* When caressing your partner - never leave them untouched. Always keep at least one hand
in contact with their body. - Mike Herron
* Don't forget to massage the scalp ... combines the wonderful feeling of running your
fingers through your lover's hair and stress relief. This works especially well if s/he
is lying on their back, with their head in your lap. If you have long hiar, let it drape
over their chest, and plant feather-light kisses on their forehead and temples while you
massage their scalp. He's completely at my whim when I do this! - Cora
* Don't forget your partner's hands and feet. Take the time to gently work the palms and
backs of the hands, top and soles of the feet, and pay special attention to each finger
and toe. - PSD
* Women have a lot of tension in the lower region. After a while on the upper back, when
she is comfortable with your hands, then use your thumbs to round her upper buttock
region (good for people who have sat for long periods of time). - Seize
* Pay special attention to the muscles in the back of the neck. People carry a lot of
stress there, and many of us overlook this area in massage. You will probably receive
encouraging moans if you're doing it right. Drag the thumbs up along the muscles at
the back of the neck from bottom to the nape. Very relaxing. - Lyzbeth
Props to Use
* Oh, definitely body to body, with warming oils, is the best I have ever had!
- Vicky Huff
* Rather than using vanilla, try coconut. Every guy likes the scent of vanilla,
but I hear more guys and women saying, "Mmmmmmm, something smells good. What
is that?" - Kat
* Try using a mid-sized rolling pin (the kitchen tool) & work
out the knots like a ball of dough. - Manicmissa
* If you use honey as your lotion, it has replenishing nutrients for
skin and tastes great when you lick it off! - Karen
* Using your personal oil, glide down your lover's legs and back, up between the thighs,
and down again, firmly going to the buttocks and squeezing in a gentle manner. - Audret
* The best way to help set the mood is with candles, but remember - as with anything -
too many will kill the mood. Try using aroma candles.
* Use your imagination when massaging. If your mate isn't too ticklish, use your
fingernails and run them lightly over the body. Use anything to help give that extra
feeling - silk, feathers, roses. Let your mind go wild and your partner will
too. - Richard
* Put on relaxing music and light, vanilla scented candles. - LitlLayt
* Use gemstones to rub over your partner's body. The sensation of the stones
rolling is very soothing. Make sure to warm the stones up first. Hold them
with your finger tips and gently roll them around. If you or your partner has very
little body fat, then just cup the stones in your hands and rub. Use either
Rose Quartz or Amethyst - these are supposed to be love stones. - AftmostSiren
Before & After the Massage
Before
* To help establish that warm, interrelationship feeling, start the massage with a foot
wash. This is especially effective with a 'new' subject who is not totally sure.
Just before there is any body work (or getting on the table), have the person sit in
a chair and gently wash their feet. Wash with a basin of warm water, soap, then
gently work with a mix of 2/3 baking soda, 1/3 salt. Rinse well, dry. Then lotion
is worked in during a good foot massage. This induces a feeling of relaxation and
trust in continuing the experience with you. - Jkimo
After
* Use oil -- hands glide easier across the body. After a back and neck massage,
kiss the neck as gently as you can. This will give him or her spine tingles. - Sparky
* After you massage your partner, lightly kiss their back. It turns my boyfriend
on a lot! - LuveBuggy
* Always end the massage with a bath or shower together. The water shouldn't be too
hot or too cold. If you are planning to use the tube, then carry her and gently place
her in the tub. - Atul_G1
* After a total body rub-down of your partner, lightly scratch his/her back, starting
at the neck and working your way slowly down to the feet, changing direction and
pressure of scratching as you go. Focus on the back of the arms, edges of arm pits,
sides of ribcage, inner thighs, calves, and outer edges of the feet. It will both
relax and stimulate your partner. - Thumper
* When the massage is over, gently glide your fingertips very lightly over the
entire body. - Darrin
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